The Failed Relationship..................................

Human relationships are known to be intricate and inexplicable. Sometimes they baffle us by the pain they cause, and also by the immense joy they have the power to deliver.
What is it that some realtionships work so successfully, whereas others are doomed to failure from the start. Sometimes the very premise of the relationship is flawed, the foundations are weak, there is mistrust and only rancour among the people who participate in the relationship. Sometimes it is too late to go back and repair what really went wrong. Most realtions don't even get a chance to survive. Incomaptible relationships are the cause of enormous pain and trauma to either side. It is not the fault of either party. It is just that there are such irreconciliable differences among the participating parties that things cannot just go right. Emotional baggages that we carry into relationships often cause them to sour. We often start out with serious prejudices or mental blocks that prevent us from devoting all our heart and soul to ensuring the success of the relationship. Every word, every move, every gesture can work towards creating a chasm between two people, who start out without really understanding each other. It is indeed stressful at times to maintain a semblance / pretense of normalcy. Pressures of life further add to deepening the misunderstanding already brewing. I don't know how right it is to try to hold on to such fragile bondings, since you know eventually the thread is too tenuous to hold out against the mental storms that are brewing. I don't even know if it is really right to apportion blame to anyone for a failed relationship. What I certainly do know is that the hurt is immense. There can be nothing more painful that watching a relationship crumble to pieces before your very eyes, perhaps an added misery is the fact that your indifference and casual behaviour at some earlier point of time may have contributed to the slow decripitude of something that could very well have been a beautiful interaction. There is nothing more pathetic than attempting to revive a dead relationship. Humiliation and heartache are in store for anyone who even tries. Carrying the cross of a dead relationship is bad enough, but trying to make it work is living hell and the worst form of torture you can inflict upon yourself. Yet sometimes you really want to put yourself through that, because you wish so desperately for it to succeed. You realize that the start was terrible, it got only worse but you still have some fond memories which you wish to cherish. For those very moments you try to carry on till you can take no more. Whether it is right or wrong is debatable but my heart tells me that I would still go on as long as I could if I had even an iota of hope of being able to make the relationship work, no matter how painful it is, and no matter how long it takes. If only I could mend what went wrong I would surely do it .........