Confusion

I was just pondering right now, why do we try to impress others. What is it about the human ego that makes us project an exaggerated image of ourself to the world. For that matter why do we care to project any image at all. Firstly I think we are all overtly self concious, just like a peackock preening itself. Caught yourself looking into the mirror even as you are talking to a friend or adjusting , that could tell you how much of a narcissist you are. No I am not condemning it. Really it is a very normal thing to do. We all like being observed, and mind you even the most quiet, placid and simple individual is capable of feeling very strongly about this. Nobody likes to be ignored. In the quest to be taken heed of, we often end up doing extradorinary things- sometimes incredibly foolish at others really heroic stuff. Each of us is gifted in a special way and I think the realization is very much alive within each of us. It is then quite natural that we should like to flaunt what we think we possess. Perhaps what is really of concern is that whether it is a deliberate act or a natural consequence of just being the way we are. If the former then I guess it might be prudent to take heed, however if it is the latter, I think you might just allow yourself to flow, for this is the celebration of life. Keep the faith, Nandini

Extreme Reactions

I have always wondered, what is it that prompts us to sometime react in an uncontrollably unguarded and violent manner to certain events and people. What is about certain people that brings out the worst instincts in even the best of us? Or is the problem with us and not with them. There are a few possibilities. Often such extreme feelings are inspired by perceived notions of betrayal, indifference, neglect and at times being used by other people to fulfill their interests. We cannot forget that it must been us who allowed them the opportunity to fiddle with our emotions. By providing them the power to govern our happiness, we have been squarely to blame. In such an event we know that we are responsible for our plight. This often leaves us with no option of expressing our angst but by indulging in a virulent tirade against those who we feel have wronged us. Another reason why people react disparagingly, is strangely as a means to divert attention from certain real issues. In such cases, the expressions of hate and distaste may be interpreted to portend quite the opposite. I strongly believe such deception has been practiced by many naive individuals, who think the world will be taken in by their clever ploy, but such dissimulation often may result in unnecessary heartache. A third possibility is that we genuinely dislike and despise certain people, but more often than not, we will not openly express our feelings on such an occasion,
So folks if you ever find yourself reacting unreasonably, question yourself honestly, there may be certain issues lurking behind which you would do better to resolve at the earliest,
Well so long,
Have a nice time,
Nandini

Drifting Away

People drift away, relationships get estranged, memories are buried under the wraps of time. Unknowingly and unconsciously we let go of those very people who were our indispensable companions not so long ago. Sometimes through sheer indifference, at others due to callous disregard we lose contact with those who care. I am sure we all remember at least one instance when we did not reply to a letter because we thought we were hard pressed for time, or return a call because we were too engrossed in our own important affairs. The human ego is a very strong factor that aids this process of distancing of hearts and minds. Many a time we expect other people to make the first move in mending a breach. We are too arrogant to accept defeat. It does not suit our vanity to be shown in error. Alas the fact that we are committing a graver error is quite hidden to our myopic thought process. So if you find yourself drifting away from a loved one, stop a moment, take the time to stem the rot, who knows it might not be too late.
Keep the faith,
Nandini